The Holidays: Family, Togetherness … and Important Conversations

The holidays bring family, memories, and moments to pause together. It’s also one of the rare times when many generations share a roof—and that gives you a chance to discuss something that matters deeply: your estate plan.

Yes, it can feel awkward. But done thoughtfully, this conversation isn’t a mood‑killer—it can deepen connection and give your loved ones clarity. At Johnson/Turner Legal here in Minnesota, we often hear clients say they wished they’d started this talk sooner. Use the season wisely—with empathy and intention.

1. Choose the Right Moment

Don’t spring leg3al talk at dinner or during gift‑opening. Instead, find a quiet pocket of time: after breakfast, on a walk, while cleaning up. Give a gentle heads-up like:

“I’ve been updating my legal documents this year and I’d love to talk you through them today.”

That helps everyone feel prepared—not ambushed.

2. Lead with Care, Not Control

The goal isn’t to issue last wishes—it’s to share your hopes and relieve burden for your family. Use soft language:

“I want to make life easier for you, no matter what the future brings.”
“I’ve started working with counsel so my plan matches my values.”

When your motivation comes from care, not fear or control, the conversation lands differently.

3. Start with Values, Not Fine Print

Begin with big questions: What matters most to you? Who do you trust to make decisions? What traditions should stay? Once those are clear, you can layer in the technical parts—wills, powers of attorney, trust terms.

Many Minnesota clients find it helpful to write down priorities first, so the conversation stays grounded even if feelings bubble up.

4. Keep It Brief and Positive

You don’t need a long sit-down—10 minutes can open the door. Emphasize this is not about gloom. A simple closing might be:

“I’m glad we talked. It’s one more way we’re caring for each other.”

Stay light, stay honest, and stay loving.

5. Follow Up After the Holidays

Post-holiday is the ideal time to act. Review notes, share documents, or schedule a meeting with your attorney now that everyone’s back in normal rhythm.

A Thoughtful Conversation Is a Gift

Talking about the future isn’t morbid—it’s a meaningful act of care. This holiday season, open the door to estate planning. Your loved ones will thank you for clarity, peace, and confidence. Prefer help walking through this yourself? Schedule a Guidance Call with one of our Johnson/Turner estate planning attorneys. We’ll help you frame the conversation, anticipate responses, and ensure your plan truly reflects your wishes.

If you live in Minnesota or the Twin Cities region, reach out to Johnson/Turner and let’s start the conversation together.